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Take down your life destroying walls …(blog quickie)


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I was thinking about the walls that we put around ourselves, when I came back from one of my daily walks this week, when is it healthy to have a wall around ourselves and when is the wall an unhealthy one? Or are all walls unhealthy?

So here I am contemplating out loud if there are times when we might need to have a wall around us. What I am gettting at here, is that sometimes we put up walls that stop us from letting people in and keep us isolated. At other times the wall that we create is healthy because it is linked to boundaries and not being taken advantage of, this wall keeps us safe.

The question is which type of wall do we function with most of the time? Boundary walls protect us they ensure that our needs are met and create a well of self love and care in our lives. Whereas the wall that I’m going to call our impenetrable wall is a wall that keeps us hidden from the world. Or, at least aspects of us.

I got to thinking about this because I have walls around myself. As I am healing, and working on myself and I teach self love, luckily my wall is the boundary wall most of the time. I’m human however, so I guess that there are times when I dip into putting up the Impenetrable wall too. We do this at times when we feel threatened or unsafe.

Maybe it happens for all of us, walls go up and they go down. I guess it's only a problem if the wall that we have put up, stops us from living a healthy and fulfilling life. Or if it never ever comes down, how are we meant to move forward? Forward movement relies on us not being trapped.

Of course one could argue that a boundary is not a wall. I tend to see it as protecti