4 things you're entitled to & not letting other's knock you down - blog quickie ...
Sometimes a situation or a comment someone makes will awaken your fear or pain body, as opposed to your excitement. This might knock your confidence and could even stop you in your tracks.
Sometimes my confidence just gets shot to bits.
A lot of us struggle with confidence, we can be so easily knocked down. Some situations and comments made by others are just epic confidence stealers.
When this happens, we may go into protection mode, when other people speak negatively about us, or our ability to do things. When the comments made are not true, this can lead to...
out and out self sabatage ...
As adults this kind of pain response can actually stop us from moving forward in healthy ways because we allow it to. Many of us put this kind of response in place when we are children and we are not even aware of it.* Seek help if necessary.
What happens is that excitement might change to fear ( I was scared about this, but fear was not there before.) So it's important to recognise when others are putting their insecurities onto you. Or talking to you in ways that create a limiting response in you.
4 things you are entitled to ...
1. No other person telling you who you are.
2. No other person tellling you what you are, or are not capable of.
3. To do things the way that you want to do them.
4. Stop listening (engaging), if someone does not respect your space, your feelings, your words.
The above experiences can deplete confidence very quickly. There are many more. Find out what your triggers are and create armour that will shield you.
If this situation comes up you can:
Pause and reflect
Explore your feelings - and put them to bed once you have your answers
Journal - just write about it all... then bin it.
Remember: You are fantastic, amazing and original...
People are entitled to their opinions, we all are and that includes you. If you want the pink curtains, get the pink curtains. If you want to take the long road, take the long road. This is your life, live it and love it in the way you see fit. No one gets to guide that but you.
Fair enough if you go for advice or go to see a therapist, you are there because you want that experience and the help. However, if you find yourself in a situation where you do not expect advice, either walk away or stand your ground.
Also remember, other people can help, but no one is going to be a real expert on your life except you. That is the bottom line and it will always be the case. What works for some, may not work for you. Do not feel that you ever have to bend to please others, if you know in your heart, that it is not for you.
So keep being brave and know that you have all the tools within you to create forward movement and momentum.
You are brilliant & always will be, no need to let anyone knock you down, or steal your light...
Lots of love
* Counselling, Coaching, Hypnotherapy can help if you have put unhealthy patterning and behaviours in place.